My favorite fast food restaurant serves a triple cheeseburger. I love that. Anything that tastes good can’t be too bad, right? Well the real reason I love the triple cheeseburger is because it makes me feel better when I order only the double cheeseburger. I make myself feel better by comparing my choice to that of people ordering the triple—or that I resisted the temptation to order the triple. See? I resisted temptation! But as long as I allow my feelings to trump what I know to be healthy, I will gain weight and suffer for my decisions.
It always makes us feel better, tragically, when we hear that someone else is worse than we are. This makes what we do seem to be justified. In another light, how often have we heard a kid grumble “I didn’t hurt him that bad” to justify the fact that he punched the other kid, but refrained from punching him twice. Isn’t that good?
When it comes to sexual activity, there is only one benchmark to measure right or wrong and that is the Word of God—not each other.
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise. 2 Corinthians 10:12
Another danger is that we minimize our sin when we compare it to some “greater” sin that we successfully resisted. This happens in many churches where one person is counseled through their sin, but another caught in same-sex sin is ostracized and shunned.
There is no excuse for me to continue eating unhealthy fast food. Likewise, there is no good reason for you or anyone else to continue in sin. Rather, confess it, repent, and seek God’s forgiveness. Your spiritual health will improve dramatically.